Nurse told medics to stop trying to save her mum as she’d ‘had enough’ – Mirror Online

A heartbroken daughter told paramedics to stop working on her mum after a massive heart attack because she "had enough".

Emma Harris had been having a cup of tea with her mum Maxine just hours before she got a desperate call to say she had collapsed after a suspected stroke.

Alongside her grandmother and uncle, Emma battled through rush hour traffic at 5pm and arrived into what appeared to be "something out of a scene of a film", and immediately knew "this was not good".

The 29-year-old nursing assistant described seeing air and land ambulances, as well as a fire engine at the scene in Kingsway near Gloucester but they were not allowed to see mum-of-three Maxine, reports GloucestershireLive .

When they said that they were working on her, I knew with my training that it was not going to be good, said Emma, who told a paramedic she worked in care.

She went on to plead to know what and later the paramedic returned and told her she could go through to where her mother was.

The paramedic said to me that mum was very poorly and to expect the worst," said Emma.

I went through, knelt by her and they said they were breathing for her.

I said to them that I understood that they had tried their hardest and I appreciated what they have done."

She continued: With respect for my mum I asked them to step back as it was clear that she had enough.

That, according to Emma, is the hardest decision that she has ever had to make.

I had never felt heartbreak like that," she added.

Maxine was just 49 when she died in August last year and Emma and her family now want to raise awareness about cardiac problems, believing potential problems could have been recognised earlier.

Now they want to highlight the warning signs to others and tell women that they are just as much at risk as men.

Emma said: I feel that there needs to be more awareness of heart attacks in women and they are not taken as seriously as men when they have symptoms of a heart problem.

Mum complained of a tight chest however it was put down to her anxiety and depression.

She started at times to get breathless. We were often up with the horses and she found it a struggle to get them in.

Maxine has been described by her daughter as being bubbly and had a massive smile and very active.

Emma said: I am not going to get angry about losing mum. I am going to fight her corner and raise awareness.

The postmortem revealed that she had two blocked arteries. She had been diagnosed with angina but was scared to take the medicine as she was told that she could faint when taking it.

An appointment came through for mum to see the heart team. The first appointment was cancelled and the second one came too late.

If she had seen someone they would have found out what was wrong.

The death of Maxine came as a complete shock to her family.

Emma had seen her mother two hours previously at her grandparents' house.

There is nothing that could have prepared Emma for what she would have to decide in the early evening of August 27.

She said: Mum was at her friend's house. I had just seen her at my grandparents' house that afternoon.

The last thing I remember her saying was what a rubbish cup of tea she was having and said that she had to leave.

I had a call from her friend to say that they thought she was having a stroke."

Referring to her family's campaign, Emma went on to say: We are fighting to raise awareness of heart attacks. Mum definitely brought us up to fight for what is right.

I am meeting with the British Heart Foundation to help boost awareness and make sure that women are aware that they too can have heart attacks at a young age.

Emma will be hosting a black tie dinner and dance to raise awareness of heart attacks and symptoms.

This is the first event of many to come in the future.

There are some slight differences that have been reported by women when they are having a heart attack.

Senior Cardiac Nurse at the British Heart Foundation Philippa Hobso said: Contrary to what some people may believe, women who have heart attacks experience the same key symptoms as men.

While chest pain is the most common symptom of a heart attack for men and women, more women than men report pain radiating to their jaw or back, and they are more likely to experience nausea or indigestion in addition to chest pain.

However, wrongly assuming that women suffer different heart attack symptoms to men has led to misdiagnosis, delayed treatment and lack of medical care, and can have tragic consequences.

If you are concerned, call 999 and seek urgent medical advice.

There will be talks and also entertainment at the black tie event.

Emma tried to book the venue for April 19, this due to the date would have marked Maxine turning 50 years old.

The event is being held at Walls club in Barnwood on April 11 and starts at 6.30pm.

For tickets contact emmalou_57@hotmail.com

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